Aug 22, 2010

Respect and Care.

There are some people I know, who have no respect.
They have no respect for the people around them, and no respect for themselves.

Now, respect has been a kind of life lesson from as soon as we'd begun to talk.
Respect your elders. (Unknown)
Men are respectable only as they respect. (Ralph Emerson)
Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue. (John Herschel)
Respect yourself and others will respect you. (Confucius)
Respect a man, he will do the more. (James Howell
So to not have respect, seems to be going against all that we've ever been taught.
You won't go far in life, without respecting your teachers, your employers, or anyone above you in the social ranking. Or at least, you'll find life very hard without it. That's a given.

But instead of respecting the people higher up - what about the people you're supposed to care about at the same level? Shouldn't we respect our close friends, or our siblings, or our significant others too?
You don't seem to think so. Yet there will be hundreds out there to disagree with you.
Respect is a lot more than just being nice. It's about caring about the other person's judgements or opinions. About caring about their feelings, their beliefs. About looking up to them (no matter how short they may be). Just about caring.

The fact that you did none of those to me - and we were supposedly "going out" really offends me. No hard feelings of course - it made getting over you a lot easier. Why, it only took me say...two seconds. If you weren't such a dick, it would have been very different. But you are a dick. So actually, in a way, thanks for that.

"Sometimes we expect more from others, because we would be willing to do that much more for them."

But I'm still seriously annoyed. Who says "yeah we're going out" when they don't even care for the other person?
It's like some unwritten law that to be in a relationship with someone you have to care about them. Care about how they're feeling, what they're up to, where they are.
Care about whether their dog's operation went well, or if they passed that dreaded maths test.
Care about whether they ended up figuring things out after that fight with their parent, or if their music performance flopped or not.
Care about them in general, without thinking that they're some creepy stalker for knowing where you are - when in reality, they only know these things because they listen, and can put two and two together.

Is that really respectful, to tell your supposed girlfriend that you don't actually care about her, or anything else? 
Is that really respectful, to lead someone on like that, before informing them that they can "take you or leave you" - meaning you don't care whatever outcome they choose?
Is that really respectful, to accuse your supposed girlfriend of trying to change you - something she'd told you from the very beginning that she would never try to do.

People should stop being paranoid and just get their acts together.
People should stop thinking they're king shit and treat others right.
People should stop being disrespectful to all of those who have or have tried to ever help them.

Stop being a dick. Stop being a bitch. Stop being all those things that people dislike. Don't change yourself, but change the way you react to people. That's not all that contradictory - it's not changing your beliefs, culture, interests, or anything - it's just called being nice, respectful, and caring.
Maybe you should learn it sometime.

11 comments:

  1. dw dear; he's just got sand in his vagina.

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  2. You knew what you wanted, you knew how to get it, you just messed up on where you got it. Watch how a guy acts around his friends, especially the ones that are girls and you'll see how he may just treat you.

    Learn from this.

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  3. That's the thing anonymous.
    I did watch the way he treated his female friends - and in that brief moment when we'd been "going out" - that was the same way he'd been treating me. And asking him to treat me like a girlfriend as opposed to a stranger was apparently too big of an ask.

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  4. what a dickhole.

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  5. :) But you were right

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  6. Dearest Dannielle,
    I agree. People should FUCKING care about each other. People should actually LISTEN to someone when they're speaking, rather than just waiting for them to stop so they can speak about their FUCKING selves.
    And yeah, I love you and all.
    xxx

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  7. my comment did not appear.
    it annoys me that someone you think you know can turn out to be such a douche, you are a beautiful girl and i love you.
    it just goes to show how you cant trust anyone, its a sad truth but a truth all the same.
    i love you.
    xxxxxxxxx

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  8. :) this made me laugh -the sudden turn to more abusive than philosophical
    :( what a dickhead.. he doesn't deserve any respect from you

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  9. Hahaha thanks anonymous, abusiveness comes from when you blog in a bad mood.
    Not exactly a good idea all the time - but I definitely felt better after posting :)

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  10. wow, I agree with this, there is so much disresepect in this world. Don't worry people that disrespect others will get nowhere in life, and they will eventually lose the people around them.

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