Cheap Therapy.

Yes guys I'm actually doing it - this is a blog about blogging.

Now don't just stop reading now; you might find some of this useful. Or at least interesting.

When you're depressed, or have loads on your mind, I often advise to write a blog.

Most people go "Oh thanks for the advice Dannie, but I don't really think I have the balls to write a blog. Sorry." - but they don't know the half of it.

People often ask me why I do it - why do I throw my life out for everyone to see?

So I've written a list on why people should give it a go.

Pros: 

• You don't have to show people your blog page, and you can write under an alias, pretty much making your page anonymous - if that's what you're after.
• It helps with depression. Seriously guys - I've had two friends of mine make secret blogs, with only myself and maybe another close friend reading them. I got to see how they turned from sullen and dry to someone now happy and full of life. Venting is the key. Though this doesn't work for everyone - I've seen it work more often than it hasn't.
• It's a good way to let people know what's up. If something is going on in your life, and you're sick of explaining the same old story over and over - just send your friends the blog link and tell them to read. It's what I've done a few times, and saved time.
• You can make new friends. With my blog, it's really nice or random when people you hardly talk to comes up and says they read and enjoy my posts. That they're going through the same situations and just open up and talk to me. 
• Like I've said a hundred times - it's excellent venting. Like a diary, though without the whole awkward "Dear Diary" thing and the cramp in your hand from pen usage. You also see all the words typed up in front of you, a good way to take things in and accept it. "So why not just write up a Word post" you ask? I'm not really sure. There's just a difference. Give it a go - you'll see. I personally always feel better after a good blog post. 

Cons:

• If you have a public blog, and you post your link everywhere - nothing is really secret (if you're blogging about your life or something). Although - like me - this isn't really a problem, it can be for people who like to keep some things private, so be careful with that.
• It can become a great procrastination tool - not a good thing to have when you have a million assignments or hours of studying to do.

There are actually loads of other points I have, I just can't really think of them right now.
But if you have any more questions, facebook message or formspring me or something and I'll let you know more.




To my regular readers - sorry about this little fail blog. It's just a kind of advertisement, but I promise I'll type up some more interesting stuff when I find some worthwhile topics or something fucks up my life again.


Talk soon, Dannie.
x

Respect and Care.

There are some people I know, who have no respect.

They have no respect for the people around them, and no respect for themselves.

Now, respect has been a kind of life lesson from as soon as we'd begun to talk.

Respect your elders. (Unknown)

Men are respectable only as they respect. (Ralph Emerson)

Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue. (John Herschel)

Respect yourself and others will respect you. (Confucius)

Respect a man, he will do the more. (James Howell) 

So to not have respect, seems to be going against all that we've ever been taught.

You won't go far in life, without respecting your teachers, your employers, or anyone above you in the social ranking. Or at least, you'll find life very hard without it. That's a given.

But instead of respecting the people higher up - what about the people you're supposed to care about at the same level? Shouldn't we respect our close friends, or our siblings, or our significant others too?

You don't seem to think so. Yet there will be hundreds out there to disagree with you.

Respect is a lot more than just being nice. It's about caring about the other person's judgements or opinions. About caring about their feelings, their beliefs. About looking up to them (no matter how short they may be). Just about caring.

The fact that you did none of those to me - and we were supposedly "going out" really offends me. No hard feelings of course - it made getting over you a lot easier. Why, it only took me say...two seconds. If you weren't such a dick, it would have been very different. But you are a dick. So actually, in a way, thanks for that.

"Sometimes we expect more from others, because we would be willing to do that much more for them."

But I'm still seriously annoyed. Who says "yeah we're going out" when they don't even care for the other person?

It's like some unwritten law that to be in a relationship with someone you have to care about them. Care about how they're feeling, what they're up to, where they are.

Care about whether their dog's operation went well, or if they passed that dreaded maths test.

Care about whether they ended up figuring things out after that fight with their parent, or if their music performance flopped or not.

Care about them in general, without thinking that they're some creepy stalker for knowing where you are - when in reality, they only know these things because they listen, and can put two and two together.

Is that really respectful, to tell your supposed girlfriend that you don't actually care about her, or anything else? 

Is that really respectful, to lead someone on like that, before informing them that they can "take you or leave you" - meaning you don't care whatever outcome they choose?

Is that really respectful, to accuse your supposed girlfriend of trying to change you - something she'd told you from the very beginning that she would never try to do.

People should stop being paranoid and just get their acts together.

People should stop thinking they're king shit and treat others right.

People should stop being disrespectful to all of those who have or have tried to ever help them.

Stop being a dick. Stop being a bitch. Stop being all those things that people dislike. Don't change yourself, but change the way you react to people. That's not all that contradictory - it's not changing your beliefs, culture, interests, or anything - it's just called being nice, respectful, and caring.

Maybe you should learn it sometime.

Like Promised.

"So is it better to tell and hurt or lie to save their face?
Well I guess the answer is don't do it in the first place."

There's this girl I know, who is absolutely amazing.

She's always been there for me too, always giving the right advice or warnings, or just generally brightening my day.

So what annoys me the most, is that when she in turn needs me - I'm so useless.

People who have seen proper questions on my formspring, can see that I'm generally helpful on the whole advice-giving area. But I guess there are some things that can't be solved by just talking.

There are some moments where you just need a good long hug, a good cry on a shoulder, and two good McDonalds burgers to even feel slightly better.

"I can't fix everything, no matter how much I think I can, or how hard I try."

And this feeling of uselessness - I know it's not my fault. I mean, I can't fix everything, no matter how much I think I can, or how hard I try. But it still hurts all the same, to see someone you feel so close to all crumpled by something inevitable that's going on in their life.

This was only a short promised blog.

Pretty much to say I love you, and I'm here for you.

Even if I'm never completely up-to-date with all the details, nor have the best wisdom when it comes to this area.

But when you make half a heart shape with your hand, I'll be here to make the other.

Always.

x

"But the search ends here,
Where the night is totally clear.
And your heart is fierce,
So now you finally know that you control where you go,
You can steer."